In a lively chat, comedian Whitney Cummings, known for her podcast "Good For You", dives into the complexities of codependency. She discusses how giving can sometimes stem from selfish motives and when self-care crosses the line into selfishness. Whitney also takes the Vedic personality test to explore personal identities and relationships, while emphasizing the need for self-awareness and authenticity. The conversation humorously addresses the nature of human connections, past influences, and the journey of self-discovery.
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Codependency
Codependency involves over-giving, becoming a doormat, and having an excessive sense of responsibility.
It leads to resentment, perfectionism, and prioritizing others' needs over one's own.
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Selfish Giving & Forgiveness
Giving is selfish because it benefits the giver by taking the focus off themselves and promoting selflessness.
Forgiveness is also selfish because it brings peace to the forgiver, not necessarily to the forgiven.
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Prioritize Self-Care
Prioritize self-care by understanding your needs.
This involves knowing what truly brings you joy and fulfillment, not just doing things for others' validation.
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Think Like A Monk
TRAIN YOUR MIND for PEACE and PURPOSE EVERY DAY
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Today, I will be sharing with you my conversation with Whitney Cummings from her Good For You podcast. In this conversation, we deep-dived into codependency and we also did the Vedic personality test from my book, Think Like A Monk, to help better understand yourself. If you want to pre-order the book, 8 Rules of Love, go to https://8rulesoflove.com/
Key Takeaways:
00:00:00 Intro
00:01:07 Codependency
00:02:52 Giving is selfish
00:04:17 When does self-care become selfish?
00:06:24 Friendship is not obligatory
00:09:28 We all want an answer
00:11:29 Why we choose familiar pain over unfamiliar pain
00:13:19 Vedic Personality Test
00:15:16 Question #1: Which of the following sounds most like what you’re about?
00:16:31 Question #2: What role do you play in your friend circle and family?
00:18:42 Question #3: What is most important to you in a partner?
00:20:52 Question #4: What do you watch most often on TV?
00:25:31 Question #5: What causes you the most pain?
00:29:13 Question #6: What is your favorite way of working?
00:33:51 Question #7: How would your ideal self spend/spare time?
00:36:49 Question #8: How would you describe yourself in 3 words?
00:37:22 Question #9: What type of environment do you work best?
00:38:41 Question #10: How do you prepare for a vacation?
00:40:33 Question #11: How do you feel if you make a mistake?
00:45:23 Question #12: What do you do when you have to make a big decision?
00:46:52 Question #13: Which best describes your daily routine?
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