The Psychology of your 20s 345. How to fall in love with failure
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Oct 21, 2025 Explore the transformative power of failure and how embracing it can lead to incredible growth. Discover why societal definitions of success often hinder progress and how successful individuals view setbacks as valuable lessons. Learn about grit as a more reliable predictor of success than IQ and the optimal failure-to-success ratio for accelerating personal development. Jemma offers practical tips for ritualizing failure in daily life, encouraging listeners to celebrate setbacks as essential stepping stones to success.
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Victoria Beckham Sparked A Rethink
- Jemma was inspired by Victoria Beckham's documentary to rethink failure positively.
- She notes she has failed more this year yet feels more confident and certain because of it.
Failure Attacks The Ego
- We fear failure because it injures our ego and links to self-worth tied to achievements.
- When value is derived from output, shortfalls feel like character flaws rather than learning moments.
Success Is Socially Constructed
- Social conditioning defines success as being number one and accumulating more, which is subjective.
- Changing performance metrics (e.g., enjoyment over ranking) would alter who we call successful.
