Emancipate Your Mind Emancipate Your Mind: 005: Understanding the Conflict Cycle in Relationships with Marriage Therapist, Kevin Hales
Jan 31, 2021
In this insightful discussion, Kevin Hales, a licensed marriage therapist, shares his expertise on managing conflict in relationships. He dives into the emotional dynamics that spark conflicts, emphasizing the need for awareness and empathy. Nonverbal communication plays a crucial role, as it constitutes 93% of our interactions. Hales explores emotional triggers and the importance of recognizing them, while also discussing the transformative power of pausing during heated moments. Ultimately, he encourages viewers to embrace conflict as a path to growth and deeper understanding.
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Conflict Is Normal And Informative
- Conflict cycles exist in every close relationship and are a natural byproduct of love and attachment needs.
- Recognizing cycles lets couples begin to address patterns instead of blaming each other.
Perspective Is Subjective Reality
- Perspective is reality: each partner's view is subjectively true even if incomplete.
- Arguing over who is "right" misses the deeper attachment meaning behind disagreements.
Resolve Conflicts In Person
- Avoid resolving tone-less texts and emails; prefer face-to-face or at least phone/video to capture tone and body language.
- Notice nonverbal cues because they often carry most of the message.
