Therapy vs. Coaching and Rory’s Transformation | Elite Performance Podcast #33
Aug 15, 2023
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Rory, a graduate of The Arena Mindset Accelerator and co-founder of Counselling Tutor, shares insights from his transformative journey in this engaging conversation. He highlights the key differences between therapy and coaching, emphasizing the importance of empathy and clear guidance. Rory discusses how recognizing one's self-worth can drive personal and professional growth, and shares the value of embracing discomfort as a catalyst for change. His experiences shed light on the cyclical nature of growth and the significance of aligning with core values.
Rory emphasizes the transformational power of structured coaching, which provided him with tools and community support for personal and professional growth.
He contrasts therapy with coaching, highlighting that coaching’s direct and accountable approach enables entrepreneurs to proactively tackle their challenges.
Deep dives
The Impact of Structured Coaching
Rory, a trained therapist and co-founder of Counseling Tutor, shares his transformative experience with a structured coaching program. Initially skeptical due to previous encounters with unstructured coaching, he found this program to be effective and focused, enabling him to address personal and professional challenges. The coaching provided him tools and community support, distinguishing it from his prior experiences. Rory emphasizes that the structured environment and shared experiences with other high-performing business owners significantly contributed to his growth and decision-making ability.
Releasing Emotional Burdens
During the coaching process, Rory confronted long-held emotional burdens linked to his father's death when he was just 17. He realized that he had been living his life trying to fulfill an invented image of his father rather than embracing his own identity. This epiphany allowed him to let go of those expectations, which he described as 'putting down a big bag.' By recognizing that he needed to look up to himself instead of an idealized version of his father, Rory experienced significant emotional liberation and personal growth.
The Value of Directness in Coaching
Rory contrasts his experiences with therapy and coaching, noting that therapy often involves a non-directive approach, while effective coaching provides a clearer and more direct examination of issues. He highlights that the coaching model encourages accountability and straightforwardness, which is crucial for entrepreneurs facing challenges. This difference allows clients to address their obstacles proactively and leads to significant progress. Rory believes that a direct yet empathetic style of coaching can lead to better understanding and acceptance of one's strengths and shortcomings.
Auditing Self-Identity
Rory discusses the importance of self-auditing in personal development, advocating for a reflection on one’s journey and accomplishments. He encourages individuals to acknowledge their past achievements, regardless of the barriers or limiting beliefs they may carry from childhood. By examining the discrepancies between their current actions and identity and reframing their self-reference, individuals can embrace their true capabilities. This process, Rory asserts, helps people accept that they are deserving and capable, allowing for greater confidence and decision-making in their personal and professional lives.
In this episode, Rory, a graduate of The Arena Mindset Accelerator joins Itamar and Emil.
Rory talks about the transformation he had and how he came to terms with the fact that he didn’t need to become more, but just realized that he already is more than he gives himself credit for.
As a trained therapist himself, the co-founder of Counselling Tutor, and an award-winning educator Rory also shared a unique perspective on therapy vs coaching.
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