TED Talks Daily How to raise kids who can handle hard things | Kathryn Hecht
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Jan 21, 2026 
In this enlightening conversation, pediatric psychologist Kathryn Hecht explores how exposing kids to their fears can cultivate resilience and confidence. She discusses her innovative approach of exposure therapy, sharing compelling stories like that of Sammy, a boy who overcame his fear of bees. Kathryn argues against 'parenting for comfort' and offers practical strategies for instilling bravery, enabling children to tackle life's challenges. With insights into the societal importance of raising brave kids, she inspires a new generation ready to face discomfort with confidence.
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Shoe Lick Demonstration
- Kathryn Hecht licked a dirty shoe on stage to create discomfort and demonstrate exposure in real time.
- The audience's visceral reaction illustrated how confronting disgust can set the stage for learning bravery.
Sammy's Bee Phobia
- Kathryn Hecht described Sammy, a third grader whose bee phobia stole his summers and limited activities.
- His fear led the family to alter plans and avoid outdoor fun until treatment began.
Anxiety Is Part Of Learning
- Exposure therapy reframes anxiety as a learning ingredient rather than the enemy to remove.
- Kathryn Hecht says bravery plus anxiety rewires the brain through inhibitory learning to build confidence.