Struggle Care 119: How to Have the Best Fight of Your Life with Lindley Gentile, LMFT
Nov 11, 2024
Lindley Gentile is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author of How to Have the Best Fight of Your Life. In this engaging conversation, she discusses why couples often struggle with conflict and how to improve their 'fighting skills.' Lindley emphasizes the dangers of seeking who's right or wrong and champions using 'I' statements over 'You' statements. She introduces the WWC framework—witness, witness, collaborate—as a pathway to better communication. The importance of empathy during disagreements and the need for a pause in conflicts are also highlighted, offering listeners valuable insights.
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Uplevel Your Fighting Skills
- Uplevel your conflict resolution skills beyond simply focusing on right and wrong.
- Learn to see and hear your partner's perspective, validating their experience.
Ignoring Problems is Harmful
- Avoiding conflict and suppressing problems is detrimental to relationships.
- Ignoring issues leads to resentment and prevents genuine connection.
Clarifying After Resolution
- Kasey Davis shares a personal struggle: offering additional information during disagreements, even after the initial issue is resolved.
- She feels compelled to clarify her point, believing more information will lead to understanding.
