Special guest Damon Wayans Jr. joins hosts Jake and Gareth to discuss insecurities, self-perception, and self-esteem. They also offer advice on handling disruptive neighborhood cat behavior and share holiday deals with a promo code.
Setting clear boundaries and open communication with the neighbor are essential in resolving the issue of a neighborhood cat causing disturbances.
Observing the cat's routines and behavior can provide valuable information to address the disruptions and determine the owner.
Deep dives
Dealing with a Bully Cat Named Herbert
Nick from Southeast Portland is facing a neighborhood bully in the form of a cat named Herbert. Herbert is eating his cat's food and causing disturbances in the morning by feuding with crows. Nick likes Herbert and the crows, but wants to find a solution. Jake suggests standing up to Herbert and setting boundaries. Gareth suggests doing a cat stock to gather more information before addressing the issue with the neighbor. Both agree that open communication with the neighbor and offering a bottle of wine might help find a resolution.
Insecurity Over Herbert's Behavior
Nick is concerned that Herbert's behavior is affecting his sleep and causing disruptions. He shares his fear of Herbert breaking into his house to eat his cat's food. Jake advises Nick to assert himself and not allow Herbert to enter his home. Gareth suggests placing food outside on the porch to prevent Herbert from coming in. Both recommend discussing the issue with the neighbor to find a compromise that respects everyone's needs.
The Importance of Establishing Boundaries
Both Jake and Gareth emphasize the need for boundaries with Herbert. They encourage Nick to establish clear limits and reinforce them consistently. They also highlight the value of observing Herbert's routines to gather more information about his behavior. Jake suggests following Herbert to understand his actions better, while Gareth advises monitoring the situation to determine the actual owner of Herbert. Overall, they emphasize respectful communication and finding practical solutions to address the disruptions caused by Herbert's presence.
Jake, Gareth, and special guest Damon Wayans Jr. talk to a caller about a very specific insecurity. Later, Jake and Gareth help someone confront an alpha cat in the neighborhood.
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