Sunny Megatron - BDSM Community Disrupter - Ep 23

Dec 6, 2021

Sunny Megatron, XBIZ Sexpert of the year and kink superhero, discusses disrupting the BDSM world and emphasizes consent, ethics, and inclusivity. She sheds light on the impact of the patriarchal feedback loop and the customizable nature of kink. Sunny introduces her educational acronym, the consent PASSM, and explores the complexities of consent beyond sex. They also tackle misinformation in the kink internet community and emphasize assertiveness and empowerment within the BDSM community.

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Introduction

00:00 • 5min

Exploring Topics in Kink and BDSM

04:31 • 2min

The Importance of Emotional Vulnerability in Sex and BDSM

06:44 • 23min

Unpacking Consent: Beyond Sex and Kink

30:05 • 5min

Misinformation and Challenges in the Kink Internet Community

34:59 • 22min

Assertiveness and Empowerment in the BDSM Community

56:34 • 10min

Excitement for Second Edition and Announcement of Break

01:06:35 • 2min

2021’s XBIZ Sexpert of the year and kink superhero, Sunny Megatron, is on a mission to disrupt the BDSM world. It’s high time to shake up norms and bring the kink community next level with up-to-date standards around consent, ethics, and self-awareness while considering how inclusivity, misogyny, education, attitudes, racism and all the isms impact the whole kit and kaboodle. In this episode, we continue our kinky discussion from episode twenty-two as Sunny tells us more about why her book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Erotic Play” is so necessary. She explains how the patriarchal feedback loop has impacted both the kink community and the media’s portrayal of kink to the masses. All the while, she stresses that she is not dissing traditionalists, but simply stating, “Don’t force it on others.” When Sunny coined the key concept “kink is customizable”, she shed a light on just how much creativity and flexibility is possible with kink. The possibilities are limitless as long as you remember consent. And on that note, Sunny goes on to tell us about her educational acronym, the consent PASSM which undoubtably will make an amazing t-shirt. So, I hope you join us for this important and fascinating episode of Open Deeply. Side note: If you would like to vote for Sunny as XBIZ’s sexpert for 2022, the link is below. Your support matters and helps sex educators, such as Sunny, who are so often suppressed by social media, make a living. So, thank you for your support! To vote for Sunny for XBIZ’s sexpert of the year simply click this link, choose Sunny, and submit! https://xbizawards.xbiz.com/voting/XB Sunny's bio related to kink: Sunny began teaching about BDSM in 2010. Her area of expertise is the soft skills--which center around things like ethics, cultivating self-awareness, and strategies for effective communication. She received a FROST Certificate of Gratitude in 2020 honoring her service to the kink community, was voted XBIZ sexpert of the year in 2021, and Kinkly’s sex blogging superhero in 2017. Her alternative sexuality focused podcast American Sex was awarded the AASECT podcast award in 2020. Sunny also creates curriculum about BDSM for sexuality professionals. Some of her most recent projects include designing & teaching the BDSM unit for a well-known sex educator certification program plus a lesson for the Sexual Health Alliance’s Kink Informed Certification Program for therapists and other care professionals. Sunny’s first book, Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Erotic Play is scheduled to be released in 2022. How to find Sunny Megatron: Website: http://sunnymegatron.com Facebook http://facebook.com/sunnymegatron Twitter http://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Instagram http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron YouTube https://www.youtube.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/2HroMhWJnyZbMSsOBKwBnk How to find Kate Loree: Website http://kateloree.com Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kateloreelmft Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft Tiktok http://tiktok.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree YouTube https://youtube.com/channel/UCSTFAqGYKW3sIUa0tKivbqQ Open Deeply podcast is not therapy or a replacement for therapy. Please know this episode has themes of sexual and emotional abuse and neglect. If you catch yourself becoming emotionally overwhelmed by this episode’s content, please get support. Call a friend, therapist, or an emotional support hotline, such as, 800-273-talk (8255).