How to Have Better Sex (Guaranteed) with Dr. Emily Morse
Jun 12, 2023
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Dr. Emily Morse discusses boosting your 'sexual IQ' and desire inventory, combatting 'pleasure thieves', and the three Ts of communication. They break down the G-spot, A-spot, and positions for more pleasure. Hosts share stories about new friendships and romantic encounters.
Understanding your sexual wellness involves examining five main pillars: mental health, physical health, self-awareness, self-acceptance, and collaboration with your partner.
Mindfulness and embodiment play a crucial role in enhancing sexual enjoyment by being present and focused during intimate encounters.
Grounding yourself in the present moment through sensory awareness can heighten intimacy and pleasure in sexual experiences by engaging all five senses.
Effective communication in sexual relationships is crucial for fostering intimacy and understanding by implementing the three T's of sexual communication – timing, tone, and place.
Deep dives
The Pivot to a New Frontier in Sexuality
Dr. Emily Morse's journey into the world of human sexuality began at the age of 35, where she realized that there was more to sex than what she had experienced. She questioned how she could excel in various areas of life but still struggle with sexuality. This led her to embark on a path of exploration and education that eventually led to her becoming a pioneer in the field of sex positivity.
The Enduring Relevance of Sexual Exploration
Despite being in the field of human sexuality for nearly two decades, Dr. Morse continues to emphasize the importance of ongoing sexual exploration. She highlights that there are always new frontiers to discover and discuss within the realm of sexuality, indicating that the quest for understanding and growth in this area is a continuous and evolving journey.
The Holistic Approach to Sexual Wellness
Dr. Emily Morse's book, 'Smart Sex,' introduces the concept of holistic sexual wellness by identifying five pillars of sexual intelligence. Through these pillars, individuals can address various aspects of their health, wellness, and mental state that influence their overall sexual well-being. By considering sex as an integral part of holistic health, Dr. Morse emphasizes a comprehensive and interconnected approach to sexual fulfillment.
Pillars of Sexual Intelligence
The five pillars of sexual intelligence—embodiment, health, communication, pleasure, and relational dynamics—form the foundation of understanding sexual wellness. Each pillar addresses a key aspect of sexual health, such as being present in the moment during intimate experiences, considering mental and physical health influences, effective communication about desires and boundaries, deriving pleasure from sexual activities, and understanding the dynamics within intimate relationships.
Explore Your Sexual Awareness and Self-Acceptance
Understanding your sexual wellness involves examining five main pillars: mental health, physical health, self-awareness, self-acceptance, and collaboration with your partner. Delving into each aspect allows you to navigate your desires effectively. Self-awareness involves recognizing what turns you on, while self-acceptance cultivates body confidence and overall acceptance of yourself. Collaboration emphasizes open communication about needs, desires, and normalizing discussions about sex.
Mindfulness and Embodiment in Sexual Intimacy
Mindfulness and embodiment play a crucial role in enhancing sexual enjoyment. Being present and focused during sexual encounters is a recurring challenge faced by many individuals due to various distractions and stressors in modern life. Incorporating mindfulness practices like breathwork and sensory awareness during intimate moments can facilitate a deeper connection and enjoyment of pleasure.
Enhancing Your Sexual Experience through Sensory Presence
Grounding yourself in the present moment through sensory awareness can heighten the intimacy and pleasure in sexual experiences. Engaging all five senses – smell, sight, touch, taste, and hearing – allows you to maintain focus and connection during intimate encounters. By acknowledging and embracing sensory stimuli, individuals can enhance their sensory presence and deepen their engagement with their partner.
Intimacy and Communication in Sexual Relationships
Effective communication in sexual relationships is crucial for fostering intimacy and understanding. Implementing the three T's of sexual communication – timing, tone, and place – enables individuals to navigate potentially awkward conversations about sex with their partners. Establishing a safe, open communication environment outside the bedroom encourages open dialogue and understanding between partners.
We are so thrilled to welcome back Dr. Emily Morse, icon in the sexual education and podcasting worlds and author of the new book Smart Sex, to elevate our sex lives. We discuss the five pillars of the “sexual IQ” and how to boost yours, taking a desire inventory to pinpoint your needs and wants, recognizing and combating “pleasure thieves” that prevent you from having your best sex, and the three Ts of communicating with your partner. We also break down the G-spot, the A-spot, and positions for more pleasure. Before Emily joins us, we’re chatting about our new friend group, Rayna’s rendezvous with Dallas Business Card Guy, and Ashley’s mile high encounter.
Follow Emily on Instagram @sexwithemily, check out her podcast Sex With Emily, and get her new book Smart Sex.
