SOLVED with Mark Manson

The Self-Improvement Paradox: When Trying to Get Better Feels Worse

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Jan 31, 2024
What happens when self-improvement makes you feel worse? The hosts dive into the complexities of growth, discussing the stigma men face in seeking help and the fear of judgment. They explore the awkward 'try hard' phase of developing social skills, where discomfort is essential for mastery. The balance between self-acceptance and the drive to improve is dissected, revealing how emotional vulnerabilities can shape relationships. With a light-hearted approach, they share insights on the journey of embracing imperfections while striving for betterment.
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ADVICE

Overcome Try-Hard Stigma

  • Don't let social stigma or fear of appearing "try-hard" prevent personal growth.
  • Embrace the process of trying, even if it feels awkward or uncomfortable at first.
INSIGHT

Try-Hard Phase

  • Trying too hard is often a necessary stage in skill development, especially social skills.
  • Embrace conscious incompetence; recognize your shortcomings to improve.
INSIGHT

Judgment of Emotional Growth

  • Emotional aspects, unlike business or fitness, are judged more harshly.
  • This judgment stems from discomfort with emotional vulnerability, often leading to harsher criticism.
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