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237. Why We Love the Way We Love: Attachment Styles with Dr. Becky Kennedy

Aug 17, 2023

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Dr. Becky Kennedy, expert in Attachment Styles, discusses the impact of attachment styles on our relationships and personal growth. She emphasizes the importance of rewiring our mental coding and addressing childhood attachments. The podcast explores how childhood patterns shape attraction in adulthood and the significance of repairing relationships. It also highlights the transformative power of communicating with our inner child and provides insights into attachment parenting and providing a secure base for children.

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Attachment styles impact our most intense conflicts, both within ourselves and with others.

Rewiring our early mental coding is key to finding peace and creating healthier relationships.

Creating a secure base for our children is crucial for their emotional well-being and future relationships.

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Attachment theory and the impact on relationships

Attachment theory explores how our early experiences and relationships with caregivers affect our attachment styles and the way we love. It highlights the importance of secure attachment, where children feel safe and loved, and can explore the world with confidence. Anxious attachment arises when children feel uncertain about their parents' availability and seek constant reassurance. Avoidant attachment occurs when children learn to distance themselves emotionally to protect against potential rejection. Understanding our attachment style can help us navigate our relationships and provide opportunities for repair and healing.

Understanding Secure, avoidant, and Anxious Attachment in Children and Adults

03:40

Importance of repair: Rewriting the Past with Empathy

02:09

Attachment Theory and the Secure Base

01:19

Introduction

5min

Understanding Attachment Theory and its Impact on Relationships

12min

Understanding the Concept of Rewiring and Attachment Styles

3min

The Influence of Attachment Patterns on Attraction

10min

Acknowledging Childhood Survival and Bedroom Comfort

3min

Origins of Attachment Theory

13min

The Importance of Repairing Relationships

4min

Initiating Conversations with Children and Communicating with Your Inner Child

5min

The Impact of Attachment Parenting

5min

10.

The Importance of a Secure Base and Recharge

5min

Glennon and Amanda share why they love this wildly popular conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy and how it radically changed their approaches to parenting their kids (and reparenting themselves).

Dr. Becky Kennedy guides us through Attachment Styles, how our past comes alive in our present – and how to free ourselves and raise freer kids.

1. Why attachment styles are at the heart of our most intense conflicts (in ourselves and with others).

2. How to rewire our original mental coding (75% of which is complete by age 3), so we can have more peace.

3. How our physical and emotional attractions in adulthood are dictated by childhood attachments.

4. Why it’s never too late to initiate relationship repair, and the warning signs that we’re starved for connection.

5. How we can help our kids trust their instincts, use parenting as a path to grow in the ways we’ve always wanted to grow, and build empathy for our own imperfect parents.

For our other conversations with Dr. Becky Kennedy, check out:

130. Breaking Cycles and Reparenting Yourself with Dr. Becky Kennedy

131. How to Raise Untamed Kids with Dr. Becky Kennedy

170. The Most Radical Way to Heal: Internal Family Systems with Dr. Becky Kennedy

About Dr. Becky:

Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and mom of three, named

“The Millennial Parenting Whisperer” by TIME Magazine.Dr. Becky is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be and founder of the Good Inside Membership platform, a hub with Dr. Becky’s complete parenting content collection all in one place. Her podcast “Good Inside with Dr. Becky” – was one of Apple Podcasts “Best Shows of 2021.”

TW: @goodinside

IG: @drbeckyatgoodinside

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We Can Do Hard Things

237. Why We Love the Way We Love: Attachment Styles with Dr. Becky Kennedy

Podcast summary created with Snipd AI

Quick takeaways

Deep dives

Attachment theory and the impact on relationships

Repairing and reworking attachment patterns

The power of secure base and repair in parenting

Encouraging self-expression and individuality in children

The long-term impact of attachment styles on relationships

Understanding Secure, avoidant, and Anxious Attachment in Children and Adults

Importance of repair: Rewriting the Past with Empathy

Attachment Theory and the Secure Base

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Attachment theory and the impact on relationships

Repairing and reworking attachment patterns

The power of secure base and repair in parenting

Encouraging self-expression and individuality in children

The long-term impact of attachment styles on relationships

Understanding Secure, avoidant, and Anxious Attachment in Children and Adults

Importance of repair: Rewriting the Past with Empathy

Attachment Theory and the Secure Base

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