Murder, trauma and a different kind of grief — what true crime pods often overlook
Jul 29, 2023
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Psychologist Patricia Harney discusses the overlooked element of grief in true crime podcasts and docos. She explores the unique grief experienced by loved ones in violent deaths. The chapter also delves into distinguishing traumatic and non-traumatic loss, the power of validation and empathy in healing from trauma, and the impact of stigma on grief.
True crime podcasts often overlook the profound grief experienced by loved ones affected by a murder.
Traumatic grief resulting from murder involves intensified common experiences of grief and unique feelings such as anguish, terror, and shame.
Deep dives
The Nature of Grief in True Crime Coverage
The popularity of true crime podcasts and documentaries lies in people's fascination with mystery and unsolved crimes. However, the focus often overlooks the grieving process experienced by the loved ones left behind. True crime coverage tends to prioritize the mystery surrounding the crime rather than the profound grief suffered by survivors. The distinct kind of grief that follows a murder involves intensified common experiences of grief and unique feelings such as anguish, terror, and shame. The missing element in true crime coverage is the understanding of the complex and deep emotional impact on the individuals mourning the loss.
The Experience of Traumatic Loss
Traumatic grief resulting from sudden, unexpected deaths, such as murder, differs from non-traumatic grief in intensity and distinct emotions. Common experiences in non-traumatic grief include sadness, longing, guilt, and disturbed sleep. Traumatic grief intensifies these feelings and adds elements of anguish, terror, and post-traumatic stress symptoms like hyperarousal and nightmares. Unlike non-traumatic grief, traumatic grief brings forth deeper existential anxiety and real-time terror. Understanding and acknowledging these differences in grief experiences is crucial for providing support and compassion to individuals dealing with traumatic loss.
The Healing Power of Validation and Empathy
Grieving the loss of a loved one through murder is particularly lonely, as society often fails to comprehend the unique pain and shame associated with such crimes. Validation and empathy play a transformative role in the healing process of traumatic grief. Acknowledgement from law enforcement, accompanied by receiving new and vital information about the murder, brings solace and helps dispel feelings of shame and fear. Therapy also plays a significant role in processing traumatic grief, with therapists providing a safe space to discuss and validate the experience. Over time, the intensity of grief can diminish, allowing individuals to find emotional freedom and embrace a fuller life.