Danica Patrick Pretty Intense Podcast Trevor Hanson
Nov 20, 2025
Trevor Hanson, a therapist and coach specializing in attachment work, shares his journey from overcoming anxious attachment to helping others find secure relationships. He discusses the complexities of modern dating, including hypergamy and the rising engagement of men in therapy. Trevor contrasts the value of men’s groups with mixed therapy and emphasizes the importance of boundaries and self-love in relationships. He also introduces his TEMPO framework for recognizing and breaking anxious cycles, encouraging emotional experiences over mere knowledge for true healing.
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Early Patterns Repeat Until Noticed
- Attachment patterns form early and repeat unless brought into conscious awareness.
- Trevor Hanson says awareness plus willingness to do something different breaks historical cycles.
Meet Resistant Men Where They Are
- Use indirect routes like online resources to warm up resistant men to therapy.
- Offer logical links between emotional work and tangible relationship benefits to gain buy-in.
Engaged Despite Clear Red Flags
- Trevor Hanson recounts staying in a dysfunctional engagement because his anxiety overrode his wisdom.
- He later realized fear trumped rational decisions during that relationship.
