Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard James Kimmel Jr. (revenge and forgiveness expert)
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Jun 4, 2025 
James Kimmel Jr., a Yale lecturer and author of *The Science of Revenge*, dives into the intricacies of forgiveness and revenge. He shares a humorous yet chilling tale of plotting vengeance against another Jimmy Kimmel. The discussion reveals how revenge can become addictive and examines the psychological impacts on individuals. James highlights the importance of being heard for victims, explores societal norms around justice, and introduces a concept for processing grievances through role-playing. His insights blend humor with profound reflections on personal growth.
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Near-Violent Revenge on Farm
- James Kimmel Jr. was bullied for years on his family's farm, culminating in his dog being shot and his mailbox blown up.
- He almost committed a violent act of revenge with a gun but stopped at the last moment realizing the irreversible consequences.
Justice Masks Revenge in Violence
- Justice is often a euphemism for revenge and blesses many forms of violence including war and terrorism.
- Using justice as justification removes moral barriers to committing violence.
Mental Trial Roleplay for Peace
- Roleplay putting the offender on trial in your mind to process grievances and gain empathy.
- Play all courtroom roles, then deliver a sentence to release rumination and move towards peace.
