Good For You Good For You University - Dr. Paul Conti
Nov 18, 2023
Dr. Paul Conti, a psychiatrist and author, discusses shame, addiction, navigating romantic relationships, and the effects of too much news. Topics include trauma's role in maladaptive behaviors, upgrading sleep with silk pillowcases and Quip toothbrushes, validation in dealing with negative thoughts, Dreamland Baby weighted sleep sack, stress-free wine with First Leaf, building self-esteem through kindness, understanding chemistry and compatibility in relationships, choosing honesty in breakups, acknowledging mistakes and making amends, and the connection between crying and insecurity.
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Shame's Dual Nature
- Shame evolved as a social survival tool to deter harmful behavior within groups.
- It often becomes hijacked, internalized, and used against ourselves, causing persistent negative self-judgments.
Brother's Death Shaped Purpose
- Dr. Conti shared his personal trauma of his brother's suicide and its impact.
- This painful experience motivated him to change career paths and deepen his empathy and resilience.
Managing Intrusive Negative Thoughts
- Identify intrusive negative thoughts as alien voices not truly representing yourself.
- Validate their presence without accepting them, then actively redirect to your true self-view.