The Ultimate Guide to Relationships, Sex, and Dating with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Oct 25, 2023
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Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a couples therapist, shares practical tools for relationships. Topics include relational self-awareness, reimagining boundaries, dating pool re-entry, dating apps, intimacy, biggest problem in relationships, and sex in dating and relationships.
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Quick takeaways
Relational self-awareness involves reflecting on the dynamics of our relationships to improve them.
Understanding our early experiences and practicing self-care can enhance our ability to show up fully in relationships.
Approaching conversations with curiosity, empathy, and timing can create a safe and productive space for dialogue.
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The importance of relational self-awareness
Relational self-awareness is the ongoing commitment to understanding and unpacking our relationship to relationships. It involves self-reflection and awareness of the dynamics happening between ourselves and our partners. By focusing on ourselves and our reactions, we can better navigate and improve our relationships.
Foundational elements for relational self-awareness
Some foundational elements for relational self-awareness include understanding our early experiences and the family systems we grew up in, as well as engaging in daily practices of self-care, such as sleep, nutrition, and mindfulness. By examining our early experiences and taking care of ourselves, we can show up more fully in our relationships.
How to approach conversations in relationships
Approaching conversations with curiosity, empathy, and a soft startup can help create a safe and open space for dialogue. Timing and context also play a role in effective communication. Choosing the right moment, such as in the morning or late afternoon, when both partners are more rested and focused, can lead to more productive conversations.
Exploring sexuality and self-exploration
Self-exploration is important for understanding our bodies and what brings us pleasure. Taking the time to explore our own desires and boundaries can improve our sexual experiences with partners. Open communication and a focus on understanding our own bodies and needs can lead to a healthier and more satisfying sexual relationship.
Challenges in relationships and the importance of self-care
Challenges in relationships are common, and self-care is crucial for navigating them. Taking care of ourselves through practices like good nutrition, sleep, and managing stress improves our overall well-being and capacity to handle relationship challenges. Self-awareness and prioritizing our own needs help us show up as better partners to our loved ones.
On this week’s episode, WHOOP VP of Performance Science, Principal Scientist, Kristen Holmes is joined by Dr. Alexandra Solomon. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. Kristen and Alexandra will discuss the definition of relational self-awareness (3:40), tactics for the service archetype (9:25), approaching conversations to reimagine boundaries (13:18), the energy of love vs the energy of fear (16:53), getting back into the dating pool (24:12), being in a good state of mind for a first date (27:15), dating apps (33:20), learning about relationships and intimacy (36:55), the biggest problem in relationships (42:15), Alexandra’s latest book LOVE EVERY DAY (51:25), and sex in the dating world and in relationships (53:27).