Playing With Fire

212 Repair Skills

Jul 12, 2025
Relationships often face ruptures, but effective repair is a learnable skill. Relying on time alone won't heal wounds; it can actually compound them. Genuine communication and accountability are key to deepening intimacy and creating psychological safety. Apologies need to be heartfelt, not performative, and accountability should be specific. The discussion emphasizes that repair is not merely a problem to solve, but an opportunity for growth and resilience in connections, enabling stronger emotional bonds.
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INSIGHT

Repair Centers The Relationship

  • Repair addresses and heals rupture between people and centers the relationship's connection.
  • Joli Hamilton defines repair as a deliberate process focused on restoring mutual connection.
ANECDOTE

Migraine Micro Repair Example

  • Joli Hamilton recounts snapping during a migraine then offering a quick apology and accountability.
  • That micro repair resolved the moment and prevented escalation between them.
INSIGHT

Repair Deepens Intimacy And Resilience

  • Repair is an opportunity to deepen intimacy rather than merely fix a problem.
  • Joli Hamilton says effective repair builds resilience and psychological safety in relationships.
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