On Purpose with Jay Shetty How to Fall in Love Without Losing Yourself This Year (5 Rules to Avoid Getting Stuck in the Wrong Relationship)
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Jan 23, 2026 Falling in love can be magical, but it shouldn't lead to losing yourself. The importance of self-awareness and maintaining personal interests is emphasized. Emotional healing shouldn't be outsourced to partners; instead, recognize your own triggers and signals. Fear of losing identity can stem from confusion between intensity and intimacy. Building healthy love requires respecting individual growth and setting clear boundaries. Choose relationships that celebrate who you are, ensuring love enhances your life rather than replaces it.
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Choice Isn’t Safety
- People often confuse being chosen with being safe and intensity with intimacy.
- Expansion in love becomes harmful when it turns into erasure of your identity.
Giving Up Parts To Stay
- Jay describes someone who gradually gave up hobbies, friends, goals, and standards to keep a partner.
- That person lost themselves trying not to lose the other person and ended up with more anxiety and insecurity.
Keep Your Life Big
- Keep your life full with hobbies, friends, and personal goals to strengthen relationship stability.
- List anchors like solo activities, supportive people, and non-romantic goals to stay steady through challenges.