Falling in love can be one of the most beautiful experiences in the world, but it can also be the place where we lose ourselves.
Today, Jay invites us to pause and reflect on how we fall in love, and what it’s costing us when we do. Love, he explains, isn’t meant to complete us or rescue us from our pain; it’s meant to add to a life that already feels rooted and whole. Too often, we mistake intensity for intimacy and attachment for alignment, ignoring the subtle signals that tell us whether a relationship is helping us grow or quietly pulling us away from who we are.
Jay unpacks the biggest mistakes we make in love, beginning with the habit of outsourcing our emotional healing. When we rely on a partner to regulate our emotions, fix our wounds, or validate our worth, love becomes a burden rather than a blessing. He encourages us to tune into the signals that matter most, how you feel after conversations, whether your energy expands or contracts, and if your values are being respected. These signals aren’t signs of failure; they’re invitations to deeper self-awareness and healthier connection.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Fall in Love Without Losing Yourself
How to Stop Making Love Your Identity
How to Let Love Add to Your Life, Not Replace It
How to Heal Yourself Without Relying on a Partner
How to Recognize Emotional Red Flags Early
How to Choose Someone Who Respects Your Life
How to Build Love That Supports Your Growth
Love doesn’t have to feel like losing yourself, proving your worth, or shrinking to be chosen. It can be calm, supportive, and deeply affirming when it’s built from self-respect and clarity.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:11 How to Fall in Love Without Losing Yourself
02:10 The Biggest Mistake We Make in Love
03:42 #1: Love Should Bring More Join In
08:12 #2: Don't Outsource Your Emotional Healing
09:57 #3: Don't Ignore the Signals
13:14 #4: The Three Love Boundaries You Mustn't Cross
16:05 #5: Fall in Love with Someone Who Loves Your Life
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