On Attachment #32: Q&A: Dishonesty & Avoidant Partners, Boundaries Around Space, Trust & Privacy, Sexual Rejection & more
Nov 1, 2022
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Avoidant Dishonesty as Distance
- Avoidant partners often use vagueness or partial dishonesty to protect their autonomy and independence.
- Anxious partners tend to over-disclose and value certainty, causing clashes in information sharing expectations.
Set Boundaries Without Criticism
- State your boundary as a clear request without criticizing your partner's need for solo time.
- Validate their need to recharge while also expressing your own desire to connect.
Trust Isn't Surveillance
- Trust is inherent vulnerability and cannot be built by constantly monitoring or checking a partner.
- Requests for phone passwords to build trust often stem from fear and control, not genuine trust.