The Mel Robbins Podcast

Why Do I Love the Way That I Love: The 4 Attachment Styles Explained

Dec 18, 2023

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Mel Robbins sits down with Thais Gibson, an expert in attachment theory, to explore how to have secure and healthy relationships. They discuss the 4 attachment styles, the impact of subconscious mind, transforming limiting beliefs, and reprogramming the subconscious mind for healthier relationships.

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Attachment styles (secure, anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant) profoundly impact relationships.

Reprogramming the subconscious mind and meeting one's own needs are essential for healing insecure attachment.

Anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant individuals can move towards more secure attachment by striving for interdependence and overcoming core wounds.

Deep dives

Understanding Attachment Styles

Attachment theory, specifically attachment styles, can profoundly impact relationships. There are four main attachment styles: secure, anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant.

Reprogramming Core Wounds with Auto Suggestion

01:28

Understanding Attachment Styles in Relationships

03:15

Impact of Childhood Emotional Neglect on Attachment Styles

01:25

Reenacting Core Wounds in Relationships

00:23

Introduction

3min

The Impact of Tyse Gibson's Work and a Bonus Meditation

3min

Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Relationships

16min

Understanding Attachment Styles and Healing Insecurity

5min

Identifying Attachment Styles as Adults

16min

Exploring the Dismissive Avoidance Attachment Style

4min

Understanding the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style

21min

Reprogramming Core Wounds

12min

Geese, Progress, and Ads for Walmart and Volkswagen

3min

Why do you love the way that you love?

How do you have the best relationships of your life (including the one with yourself)?

Today, Mel sits down with expert in attachment theory Thais Gibson to explain the framework to improve any relationship in your life.

Her work on the subconscious mind and personal transformation will empower you to set better goals and have happier and healthier relationships.

Topics discussed include:

How to have secure and healthy relationships (including your relationship with yourself)
What your “attachment style” means and the 4 types
How your subconscious mind drives a lot of what you do
What love is supposed to look like
How your attachment style impacts your personal goal-setting
The biggest limiting beliefs from childhood (which one is yours?)
How to figure out your attachment style
How to make your attachment style “secure”
The difference between “core wounds” and “core needs”
The 2 things you did in childhood that made you a people-pleaser
How to feel less anxious and overwhelmed in relationships
How your fear of abandonment shows up in your relationships
The one question to ask yourself before you argue with your partner
What your new love interest needs if they have a hard time trusting
How to reprogram your subconscious mind for healthier relationships

You can purchase Thais’s latest book, Learning Love: Build the Best Relationships of Your Life Using Integrated Attachment Theory, here: https://a.co/d/i2Ae9vG

Follow Thais Gibson:

Instagram: instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool

YouTube: youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

Watch the podcast episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr

Check out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt

Follow Mel:

Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb

The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP

LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB

TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v

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The Mel Robbins Podcast

Why Do I Love the Way That I Love: The 4 Attachment Styles Explained

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Quick takeaways

Deep dives

Understanding Attachment Styles

Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style

Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style

Healing Insecure Attachment Styles

Understanding Attachment Styles

Exploring Fearful Avoidant Attachment

Reprogramming Core Wounds with Auto Suggestion

Understanding Attachment Styles in Relationships

Impact of Childhood Emotional Neglect on Attachment Styles

Reenacting Core Wounds in Relationships

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Why Do I Love the Way That I Love: The 4 Attachment Styles Explained

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Deep dives

Understanding Attachment Styles

Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style

Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style

Healing Insecure Attachment Styles

Understanding Attachment Styles

Exploring Fearful Avoidant Attachment

Reprogramming Core Wounds with Auto Suggestion

Understanding Attachment Styles in Relationships

Impact of Childhood Emotional Neglect on Attachment Styles

Reenacting Core Wounds in Relationships

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