

More Happier: Talking Romance Writing with Stacey Abrams and Lori Gottlieb
22 snips Aug 23, 2025
Stacey Abrams, bestselling author and political leader, and Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author, dive into the world of romance in fiction and real life. They discuss the art of writing authentic romantic connections in suspense novels, emphasizing emotional journeys and consent. The conversation also tackles modern romance dynamics, exploring the impact of small gestures versus grand displays. Together, they highlight how societal expectations shape relationships and the importance of joy and appreciation in nurturing love.
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Ground Romance In Honest Needs
- Stacey Abrams says romance must feel honest and grounded even in heightened plots.
- She builds characters by knowing their likes, dislikes, and core needs so relationships ring true.
A Spy Romance Built On Needs
- Stacey describes her first romance: a spy who felt responsible for deaths and a man who couldn't trust again.
- Their needs—self-forgiveness and overcoming suspicion—drive both the romance and the plot.
Modern Romance Prioritizes Agency
- Stacey notes a shift away from hypermasculine romance tropes that masked non-consent.
- Modern romance centers women's agency and consensual dynamics in relationships.