Life Kit

The science of finding a partner

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Feb 14, 2023
Logan Ury, a behavioral scientist at Hinge and author of *How to Not Die Alone*, discusses the pitfalls of relying solely on initial chemistry in dating. She emphasizes the importance of understanding dating personalities—romanticizers, maximizers, and hesitators—to navigate relationship challenges. Ury introduces the 'three-date rule' to encourage deeper emotional connections and dispel first-date jitters. With actionable strategies, she inspires listeners to rethink their dating habits and focus on fostering meaningful relationships.
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INSIGHT

Spark vs. Compatibility

  • Logan Ury observed that clients often prioritize initial "spark" over potential compatibility.
  • This mindset, influenced by romantic comedies, hinders exploration of promising connections.
ADVICE

Intentional Love

  • Approach love intentionally, making conscious decisions rather than waiting for magic.
  • Take control of your love life and be thoughtful in every step of the dating process.
INSIGHT

Dating Blind Spots

  • Logan Ury identifies three dating blind spots: romanticizers, maximizers, and hesitators.
  • Each type struggles with different unrealistic expectations about relationships or partners.
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