

The science of finding a partner
162 snips Feb 14, 2023
Logan Ury, a behavioral scientist at Hinge and author of *How to Not Die Alone*, discusses the pitfalls of relying solely on initial chemistry in dating. She emphasizes the importance of understanding dating personalities—romanticizers, maximizers, and hesitators—to navigate relationship challenges. Ury introduces the 'three-date rule' to encourage deeper emotional connections and dispel first-date jitters. With actionable strategies, she inspires listeners to rethink their dating habits and focus on fostering meaningful relationships.
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Spark vs. Compatibility
- Logan Ury observed that clients often prioritize initial "spark" over potential compatibility.
- This mindset, influenced by romantic comedies, hinders exploration of promising connections.
Intentional Love
- Approach love intentionally, making conscious decisions rather than waiting for magic.
- Take control of your love life and be thoughtful in every step of the dating process.
Dating Blind Spots
- Logan Ury identifies three dating blind spots: romanticizers, maximizers, and hesitators.
- Each type struggles with different unrealistic expectations about relationships or partners.