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Life Kit

The science of finding a partner

Feb 14, 2023
Logan Ury, a behavioral scientist at Hinge and author of *How to Not Die Alone*, discusses the pitfalls of relying solely on initial chemistry in dating. She emphasizes the importance of understanding dating personalities—romanticizers, maximizers, and hesitators—to navigate relationship challenges. Ury introduces the 'three-date rule' to encourage deeper emotional connections and dispel first-date jitters. With actionable strategies, she inspires listeners to rethink their dating habits and focus on fostering meaningful relationships.
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Quick takeaways

  • Focus on building gradual connections based on reliability, kindness, and loyalty instead of seeking immediate sparks.
  • To improve dating experiences, implement pre-date rituals, design engaging dates, and prioritize genuine curiosity over checklist-driven interactions.

Deep dives

Identifying Dating Blind Spots

The podcast discusses the importance of recognizing dating blind spots. The speaker describes three types of people who struggle to find love: the romanticizer, the maximizer, and the hesitator. Each type has unrealistic expectations or hesitations about dating. Advice is shared on how to shift mindsets to avoid these blind spots and increase chances of finding meaningful relationships.

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