Sex With Emily Why We Struggle With Commitment
May 20, 2025
In this conversation, Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert, shares insights on commitment in relationships. They explore how childhood experiences and societal pressures contribute to commitment issues. Discussions include the pitfalls of seeking a 'perfect partner' and the complexities of modern dating culture. Lyons also addresses the emotional impact of erectile dysfunction and challenges surrounding male sexuality. The dialogue suggests that rethinking commitment can lead to healthier, fulfilling connections, embracing individualized approaches.
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Commitment as Release Not Restriction
- Commitment can be reframed as a release into safety and togetherness, not a loss of freedom.
- The traditional idea of merging fully with a partner can feel intense and restrictive, especially without clear expectations.
Early Conditioning Shapes Commitment Views
- Emily witnessed her parents marrying and divorcing multiple times, shaping her early views on commitment.
- She prefers clear, well-defined commitments that allow for space and do not follow traditional expectations such as cohabiting or marriage.
Attachment Styles Affect Commitment
- Avoidant attachment is a protective wall making commitment feel unsafe and difficult.
- Anxious attachment leads to over-committing to others while neglecting one’s own needs.
