

Unmasking: Or, Masking Part Deux
Jul 10, 2025
Delve into the emotional costs and benefits of masking in neurodivergent lives, particularly for those on the autism spectrum. The conversation addresses how societal pressures shape identity and highlights the supportive roles of diverse communities. Explore alternative relationship structures, like polyamory, while challenging traditional norms. Personal stories illustrate the complexities of unmasking and the journey toward authenticity. Listen as they discuss the potential for a more inclusive future and the importance of embracing one’s true self.
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Masking as Trauma Response
- Masking is a trauma response done to feel safe but causes bodily stress and illness.
- The gap between true self and facade creates mental and physical health problems over time.
Amelia's Unique Autism Experience
- Amelia experienced hypersensitivity to interoception, unlike many autistic people with alexithymia.
- She felt overwhelmed by body sensations, a rarely discussed aspect of autism.
Unmask by Embracing Conflict
- To unmask, stop people pleasing and become comfortable with being disliked.
- Learn to live transgressively by saying no and insisting on your needs.