Why Imperfect Parenting is Perfect w/ Dr. Lisa Damour & Reena Ninan
Jan 26, 2024
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Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan discuss the five principles of parenting and the importance of imperfection. They also tackle topics like instilling compassion, martyr moms, personal growth, emotion regulation, and balancing freedom and support.
Regulating our own emotions can help children navigate their intense emotions.
Parents should reflect on their values and communicate with their children to cultivate shared understanding of what it means to be a good person.
Deep dives
The Importance of Co-Regulation in Regulating Kids' Emotions
Co-regulation is a key aspect in helping kids regulate their emotions. By regulating our own nervous systems and remaining calm, we can lend our stability to our children and help them navigate their intense emotions.
Understanding the Notion of 'Good Humans'
The concept of 'good humans' may vary from person to person, as each individual has their own values and beliefs about what makes a person 'good'. It is important for parents to reflect on their own values and communicate with their children to cultivate shared understanding of what it means to be a good person.
Breaking Free from the Martyr Mom Mentality
The idea of the martyr mom, where mothers sacrifice everything for their children, can be burdensome and unhelpful. It is crucial for parents to recognize the importance of their own needs and well-being, as constantly sacrificing oneself may not be beneficial for children in the long run.
Navigating the Transition from Having Control to Less Control as Kids Grow
As children grow older and gain more independence, parents may experience a shift in their control over their kids' lives. The key is to embrace this transition and find a balance between granting freedom while still providing guidance and setting appropriate boundaries.
Join us for a joint episode with Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan hosts of the podcast “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting.” We delve into the five principles of parenting, and why there is no such thing as raising kids perfectly. We also tackle some burning parenting questions, offering valuable insights to help guide you on your parenting journey.
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