We Can Do Hard Things How to Have *Healthy* Conflict with Amanda Ripley
Oct 3, 2024
Amanda Ripley, a conflict expert and investigative journalist, shares invaluable insights on navigating healthy conflict. She explains how to diffuse high-conflict situations and emphasizes the importance of understanding shame responses for better resolutions. The conversation highlights the pitfalls of binary thinking in relationships and introduces practical strategies like the BIF approach for effective communication. By advocating for empathy and curiosity, Ripley provides a fresh perspective on resolving disagreements while maintaining personal integrity.
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Good Conflict vs. High Conflict
- Conflict is inevitable and necessary for growth, like resistance training.
- However, high conflict, characterized by contempt and stagnation, is destructive.
Glennon and Abby's Conflict
- Glennon and Abby discuss their past conflicts, where they felt like they were fighting for their lives.
- Recently, they've shifted to a more collaborative approach, focusing on shared goals.
Understanding and Disagreeing
- It's possible to understand someone's perspective while disagreeing with them.
- This realization allows for maintaining one's values while engaging in healthy conflict.