NYC's sought-after family therapist, Vienna Pharaon, discusses identifying origin wounds, importance of addressing parent shortcomings, and struggles of changing within family systems
Recognizing worthiness wounds helps understand behavioral patterns like perfectionism and people-pleasing for seeking external validation.
Belonging wounds lead to suppressed authenticity in efforts to fit in, addressing this helps reclaim individual identity.
Prioritization wounds stem from neglecting emotional needs, setting boundaries aids in valuing self-worth and independence.
Deep dives
Importance of Recognizing Worthiness Wounds
Recognizing the impact of worthiness wounds, arising from conditional love in childhood, affects individuals' self-perception and behaviors. Addressing feelings of unworthiness helps in understanding patterns like perfectionism or people-pleasing to seek external validation.
Impact of Belonging Wounds on Personal Identity
Belonging wounds stem from feeling othered or not fitting in within family dynamics or cultural settings. Individuals adapt to blend in, leading to suppressed authenticity. Recognizing this wound can help in reclaiming one's true identity without compromising individuality for external acceptance.
Prioritization Wounds and Seeking Validation
Prioritization wounds manifest when significant figures neglect the emotional needs of individuals, causing feelings of insignificance or neglect. This can affect relationships and lead to seeking validation and importance from others. Recognizing and setting boundaries can help in valuing self-worth.
Trust Wounds and Impact on Relationships
Trust wounds result from breaches in trust due to deceit, betrayal, or consistent broken promises. These wounds affect individuals' ability to trust and form secure connections. Understanding trust wounds helps in navigating relationships with authenticity and vulnerability.
Safety Wounds and Impacts on Emotional Well-being
Safety wounds emerge from experiences of abuse or emotional negligence, affecting emotional, physical, and mental well-being. Addressing trauma and creating safe environments is crucial for healing and establishing healthy boundaries for emotional safety.
Today, we are lucky enough to get an hour with one of NYC's most sought-after family therapists, Vienna Pharaon! Vienna joins Hannah to talk about why she became a therapist, how her own experiences shape her work, and how addressing little wounds is just as important as working on the big stuff. They also discuss how to identify the 5 different types of origin wounds, why handling shortcomings as a parent is so crucial, and the difficulties of changing for the better within a family system.