Are You in Love Or Are You in Trauma? | Dr. Nicole LePera

Aug 19, 2024

Dr. Nicole LePera, a bestselling author and holistic psychologist, dives into the nuanced differences between love and trauma in relationships. She emphasizes that genuine love requires self-connection rather than dependency on partners for fulfillment. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding emotional triggers and articulating needs. Nicole inspires listeners to recognize that healing starts within, turning past wounds into opportunities for growth. Self-compassion and patience are key as we navigate personal and relational challenges.

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Intro

00:00 • 2min

Love vs. Trauma: Understanding Relational Dynamics

01:44 • 13min

Navigating Grief and Breaking Generational Cycles

15:00 • 6min

Navigating Emotional Awareness in Relationships

20:46 • 14min

Bridging the Health Gap and Enhancing Relationship Communication

34:20 • 4min

Navigating Relationships: Self-Awareness and Trust

38:44 • 19min

Embracing Sexual Health and Wellness

57:47 • 3min

Name that drama. Is it love anchored in the middle of genuine conflict? Or is emotional trauma dressed up as what you believe to be love?

Nicole LePera is the bestselling author of the workbook changing millions of lives, How to Meet Yourself. She’s a holistic psychologist committed to helping people heal past traumas that continue to show up as problems in adult life.

Today we’re talking about how you can identify love experiencing conflict versus trauma that’s a trigger and void from your past. Nicole shares why the expectations we have for our partners when we’re triggered and going through something difficult need to be put in check.

Your partner isn’t here to “complete” you, but you are here to complete you and the needs you feel aren’t being met.

Wholeness comes from within and self-connection is key for successful relationships

Often we mistake what feels good with what’s actually familiar

Trust is built when you’re at odds, feeling disconnected and able to come back together

Understand what kind of support you need and articulate that to your partner

Being dysregulated is normal, have self-compassion and patience for yourself

“A lot of us are confused on what support is. For a long time I thought support meant taking away my suffering.”

Even if you haven’t faced your childhood traumas,making an observation and note of what of how you feel and what you want in that moment is a start you can be proud of. Maybe that’s all you have to give that day, and that’s enough.

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