

73 - Pitfalls of Leadership: #2 Performance over Presence
Jun 24, 2025
Leadership pitfalls can trap even the best, particularly when performance overshadows personal presence. Discover how this mindset alienates leaders from their true selves and damages authentic connections. The conversation highlights the struggle for high achievers to balance success with genuine relationships, revealing the necessity of vulnerability and self-awareness. Through anecdotes and insights, it becomes clear that valuing intrinsic worth over achievements fosters deeper connections and enhances emotional well-being.
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Worth Tied To Performance Destroys Presence
- When leaders tie self-worth to performance they become "human doings" and lose authentic presence.
- Presence means speaking your feelings, needs, and hopes honestly to others.
Contempt For Need Creates Anxiety
- Performers develop contempt for their own neediness and eventually for others' needs as demands.
- That contempt creates anxiety and makes every interaction feel like a performance threat.
Pastor's Sabbatical Panic
- Chip shares a story of a pastor who panicked over a call the first day of sabbatical and spiraled into anxiety.
- The panic came from believing his value depended on flawless performance, not truth or presence.