113 How to do hard things & build exceptional love with Neuro-Somatic Intelligence expert Elisabeth Kristof
Jun 3, 2023
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Neuro-Somatic Intelligence expert, Elisabeth Kristof, shares tools for regulating the nervous system in relationships and navigating conflicts. They discuss the impact of neuro somatic intelligence on behaviors and relationships. They also explore the challenges of making life changes and the need for effective regulation in dating. The concept of neuro tags and emotional flashbacks is explained, emphasizing personal responsibility. Listeners are encouraged to start a daily practice for real change in life, relationships, and behaviors.
Understanding and regulating our nervous system impacts our behaviors, experiences, and relationships.
Recognizing signs of dysregulation and finding appropriate sensory inputs helps regain balance and safety.
By understanding neuro tags and emotional flashbacks, individuals can reclaim agency over their nervous system responses.
Deep dives
The Importance of Nervous System Regulation
In this podcast episode, Elizabeth Kristoff discusses the significance of regulating our nervous system. She highlights how our nervous system impacts our behaviors, experiences, and relationships. By understanding how our nervous system works and having practical tools for self-regulation, we can create positive change and alignment in our lives. Elizabeth emphasizes the importance of personal responsibility in regulating our own nervous system and not relying solely on others for co-regulation. Through self-awareness, shared language, and individualized practices, we can navigate dysregulation, enhance connection, and foster personal growth.
Identifying Dysregulation and Its Subtle Signs
Dysregulation can manifest in various ways, both overt and subtle. Elizabeth explains that dysregulation can lead to dissociation, numbing, cognitive difficulties, compulsive behaviors, and physical sensations like pain and tension. She encourages individuals to pay attention to these signs and symptoms, as they indicate the importance of self-regulation. Recognizing one's unique neurological responses and finding appropriate sensory inputs to interrupt dysregulation helps individuals regain a state of balance and safety.
The Role of Neuro Tags and Emotional Flashbacks
Elizabeth delves into the concept of neuro tags, which are neural pathways activated by certain stimuli, often tied to past experiences and trauma. Emotional flashbacks occur when these neuro tags are triggered, causing individuals to perceive present situations through the lens of past negative experiences. This can result in heightened threat responses and distorted interpretations of external cues. By understanding neuro tags and emotional flashbacks, individuals can work towards interrupting these patterns and reclaiming agency over their nervous system responses.
Co-Regulation and the Importance of Individualized Practices
Co-regulation involves understanding that individuals have unique nervous systems requiring different tools and approaches for regulation. Elizabeth emphasizes the necessity of personal responsibility and a daily practice tailored to one's specific needs. While co-regulation within relationships can provide support, each person must develop their own self-regulation skills to avoid overwhelming their partner or relying solely on them for regulation. By cultivating self-awareness and finding practices that work for them, individuals can enhance co-regulation within relationships.
Efficiency and Impact of Nervous System Training
Elizabeth highlights the effectiveness of nervous system training and how quickly it can produce positive results. By dedicating as little as 10 to 20 minutes a day to regulated practices, individuals can experience significant changes in their behaviors, relationships, and overall well-being. She offers resources, such as two free weeks of training on her website, to help individuals kickstart their own nervous system training and work towards building healthier, regulated lives.
How do you handle wigging out, feeling like a mess, or in technical terms getting dysregulated? Well, we rely on tools we learned from applied neurologist Elisabeth Kristof, and now you can hear about them directly from her! Learning how to work with your unique nervous system is like getting the cheat code to be more present in your life, have access to pleasure, and be more of who you want to be even when stuff gets tough.
You're going to want to know how to work with Elisabeth, and she's offering two free weeks of live and on-demand coaching at freeneurotrial.com!
Elisabeth Kristof, MA, is an expert in nervous system health for trauma resolution and behavior change. She is the founder of Brain-Based Wellness, an online platform that trains the nervous system and body to resolve old patterns, improve performance and increase well-being. She is co-host of the Trauma Rewired podcast that explores the neurology of complex trauma.
Elisabeth is a certified applied neurology and somatics practitioner who has been in the wellness industry since 2007. She works with entrepreneurs, athletes, leaders and creatives to improve resilience, manage stress and regulate emotions through intentional, science-based brain training.
Her research and work with hundreds of clients has taught her that healing and change must occur in both the body and the mind, that each body, mind, and nervous system is unique, and most importantly, that with the right tools, we are all capable of healing.
She is also the founder of Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Certification, an ICF-accredited course that teaches leading-edge, somatic coaching that creates client transformation from the body to the brain.
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