The bad news is you’re always going to care what people think. The good news is it doesn’t have to control your life. In this episode, I walk through 9 ways to rethink your relationship with external validation. If you want to be done letting other people’s opinions steer your every move, this one’s for you.
EPISODE OUTLINE
00:00 Intro
05:28 1. Caring what people think is natural
07:14 2. You can’t control how you feel, but you can control what you do
16:07 3. You should care what some people think
18:16 4. Not caring what people think ≠ not caring about people
19:45 5. Chasing approval always backfires eventually
26:21 6. You don’t know what people think
30:29 7. Other people are not thinking about you as much as it feels like they are
35:32 8. You care more about other people’s opinions when you don’t have your own
37:28 9. It’s okay to want to be with people who make you feel good
39:27 Lightning round recap
42:29 Challenge
EPISODE LINKS
• The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
• Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
• The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga
• The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir
• The Art of Living by Epictetus
• Social Rejection Triggers Physical Pain Brain Centers
• Surgeon General's Report on the Health Impact of Loneliness
MY LINKS
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