Navigating Approval and Identity

The bad news is you’re always going to care what people think. The good news is  it doesn’t have to control your life. In this episode, I walk through 9 ways to rethink your relationship with external validation. If you want to be done letting other people’s opinions steer your every move, this one’s for you.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro

05:28 1. Caring what people think is natural

07:14 2. You can’t control how you feel, but you can control what you do 

16:07 3. You should care what some people think 

18:16 4. Not caring what people think ≠ not caring about people

19:45 5. Chasing approval always backfires eventually

26:21 6. You don’t know what people think

30:29 7. Other people are not thinking about you as much as it feels like they are

35:32 8. You care more about other people’s opinions when you don’t have your own

37:28 9. It’s okay to want to be with people who make you feel good

39:27 Lightning round recap

42:29 Challenge

EPISODE LINKS

• The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz 

• Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl 

• The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

• The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir

• The Art of Living by Epictetus 

• Spotlight Effect Study 

• Social Rejection Triggers Physical Pain Brain Centers 

• Surgeon General's Report on the Health Impact of Loneliness 

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