Indian actress Vidya Balan discusses romance, marriage, cheating, and relationships with Raj Shamani. They touch on the boat and anchor theory, immature fights, personal space in relationships, cheating in relationships, and the difference between connection and instant stimulation. Vidya also shares about her realization that Siddharth Roy Kapur was the one for her.
Authenticity is essential in relationships to foster genuine connections and avoid settling for instant gratification.
Infidelity can stem from feelings of emotional worthlessness, seeking validation, attention, and shifting desires within a relationship.
Childhood sweethearts often display higher relationship success rates due to early commitment, contrasting with modern tendencies towards seeking instant stimulation over genuine connections.
Deep dives
Finding Comfort in a Cup of Coffee
When caught in a rainstorm without coffee during the early morning hours, Siddharth's gesture of braving the rain to get a cup of coffee conveyed a sense of home and connection, solidifying a moment of instant bonding.
Reasons Behind Infidelity
Discussing the complexities of relationship infidelity, the podcast delved into reasons people cheat, citing the lack of growth together, shifting desires, and seeking validation and attention. Emotional worthlessness can lead individuals to find solace in affairs.
Changing Perspectives on Relationships
The podcast examined shifting perspectives on relationships, highlighting how childhood sweethearts have higher success rates due to early commitment, contrasting with modern tendencies to seek instant stimulation over genuine connections.
Mismatched Love Languages
Exploring the 'sofa theory', the conversation delved into how men's objective-driven nature often treats partners as possessions or sofas, seeking constant validation and stimulation over deeper connections.
Authenticity in Relationships
The podcast emphasized the importance of authenticity in relationships, encouraging individuals to seek genuine connections and avoid settling for instant gratification. It underscored the significance of understanding oneself before seeking connections with others.
(00:00) - Intro (03:45) - Vidya Balan and romance (05:05) - Vidya balan on her marriage with Siddharth Roy Kapur (10:23) - Boat and Anchor theory (13:01) - Relationship with parents influence choice of partner (15:35) - Immature fights and how they deal with it (20:08) - Advice to couples (22:32) - Individual physical space in relationships (25:52) - Giving time to family Vs having personal space (32:27) - Relationship Hack, Thankyou over sorry (36:03) - Why do people cheat in relationship? (40:39) - Harvard’s study on polygamy (44:10) - Sofa theory (46:50) - Situationship (49:35) - Connection Vs Instant stimulation (54:38) - About Do aur do pyaar movie (57:10) - Vidya balan on realising Siddharth is the one for her. (58:46) - Thanks for watching!
In today’s episode of Figuring Out, we have Vidya Balan in conversation with Raj Shamani. She is an actress who has not worked in a template but always did movies that were unique and different from one another. From Mission Mangal to Dirty Picture, she has nailed every movie that she has done. Our conversation was one of the most heartwarming conversations on love we had on our podcast. In this episode, we talked about her equation with her husband Siddharth Roy Kapoor, and how she never saw herself getting married before meeting him and her perspective on getting married. We then talked about two types of people in relationships and how it is related to the people we attract or are attracted to and the theory of the Boat and the Anchor. She then shared how her equation has evolved with Siddhart over the years and how she practices self-love and self-acceptance and maintains her individuality being in a marriage. We then talked about why people cheat and this was the most interesting part in our conversation because we figured out so many reasons that most of us haven’t thought about. Then I shared the Sofa theory in relationships and how men and women have different mindsets in relationships. She then shared her take on situationships and shared about her new movie which is about relationships. We ended our conversation with a romantic story of how he realised that Siddhart was the one for her. For more such episodes don’t forget to subscribe to our channel. Follow Vidya Balan On: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/balanvidya/ ----------- To Know More, Follow Raj Shamani On ⤵︎ Instagram @RajShamani https://www.instagram.com/rajshamani/ Twitter @RajShamani https://twitter.com/rajshamani Facebook @ShamaniRaj https://www.facebook.com/shamaniraj LinkedIn - Raj Shamani https://www.linkedin.com/in/rajshamani/
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