KQED's Forum How to Survive Even the Most Awkward Roommate Conflicts
Aug 26, 2025
Join Sahaj Kaur Kohli, a therapist and founder of Brown Girl Therapy, alongside comedian Michael Abber, who hosts Roommate Court. They tackle the comedic and serious sides of roommate conflicts, from splitting rent to navigating emotional ties with friends living together. Discover hilarious stories like the shared cat dilemma and gain expert strategies for fostering communication and setting boundaries. Their insights will help you turn awkward situations into harmonious living arrangements.
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The Lucy Custody Case
- Michael Abber mediated four roommates fighting over a cat named Lucy and judged the cat the rightful owner.
- He assigned shared chores (cleaning litter) to humble the roommates and settle responsibility.
Intimacy Without Commitment
- Roommate relationships are intimate yet often lack commitment, creating unique tensions.
- That mismatch amplifies small slights into bigger conflicts because expectations aren't explicit.
Set Pet Ground Rules Early
- Do set explicit ground rules before bringing pets into shared space, covering access, care, and cleanup.
- Ask who will be responsible for vet bills, litter upkeep, and whether pets can enter private rooms.
