528- Conscious Dating with ADHD: How to Avoid Toxic Relationships and Find Your Ideal Match
Nov 19, 2024
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Join Amie Leadingham, a master certified relationship coach and one of LA's top dating coaches, as she offers insights on conscious dating with ADHD. She discusses creating authentic online profiles that attract the right partners and identifying potential red flags like love bombing and impulsivity. Amie emphasizes the need for emotional intelligence in dating, practical strategies for setting boundaries, and the importance of self-awareness. Listeners will gain valuable tools for navigating the complexities of relationships and fostering deeper connections.
Mindful conscious dating emphasizes the importance of self-reflection to identify one's non-negotiables and build deeper connections.
Establishing clear boundaries and recognizing red flags like love bombing are crucial for maintaining emotional safety while dating with ADHD.
Deep dives
Understanding Mindful Conscious Dating
Mindful conscious dating focuses on creating deeper connections based on self-awareness and understanding in relationships. This approach helps individuals recognize their patterns in partner selection, often influenced by past experiences and personal insecurities. The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, suggesting individuals consider what they truly want in a partner rather than what looks good on paper. By developing a clear vision of non-negotiables in relationships, one can engage more thoughtfully and effectively in the dating process.
Challenges of Online Dating
Online dating presents unique challenges, particularly for individuals with ADHD, such as impulsivity, excitement-seeking, and emotional sensitivity. These traits may result in jumping into relationships too quickly or becoming easily overwhelmed by novelty, leading to unsatisfying connections. The importance of establishing boundaries and taking the time to truly get to know prospective partners is emphasized, as well as recognizing the distinguishing factors between genuine interest and harmful behaviors like love bombing. Individuals are encouraged to remain intentional in their approach to online dating to foster meaningful relationships.
Creating an Intentional Online Dating Profile
Crafting an effective online dating profile requires presenting oneself authentically while attracting the right connections. The speaker recommends including various types of photos that tell a story about oneself, as well as a well-thought-out bio that conveys personal values and dating intentions. It’s vital to make the profile resonate on a deeper level rather than relying solely on superficial traits, ensuring it reflects one’s true self. By actively engaging and marketing oneself effectively on dating platforms, individuals can filter out potential matches and align with partners that fit their desired characteristics.
The Importance of Boundaries and Non-Negotiables
Establishing clear boundaries and knowing one's non-negotiables is essential in a dating context, especially for maintaining emotional safety. Individuals are encouraged to assert their needs and values in relationships, ensuring compatibility before proceeding too far. By treating the first dates as casual meetups rather than serious encounters, one can better evaluate whether a connection is appropriate. Continuous self-evaluation and ensuring alignment of values over chemistry help individuals avoid patterns of unhealthy relationships and facilitate growth.
Join Master Certified Relationship Coach Amie Leadingham to learn strategies for creating an online dating profile that showcases your authentic self and how to identify potential red flags and navigate common dating scenarios, including love bombing, impulsivity, and ghosting.
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