The Libido Fairy Podcast #88: What Every Woman Needs to Know About Desire, Boundaries & Pleasure
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May 21, 2025 
Join Hannah Deindorfer, the insightful creator of the Libido Fairy account and certified somatic therapist, as she dives into the complexities of women's desire. She sheds light on how stress and resentment can dampen intimacy. Discover her innovative 'Sexual Menu' tool to foster communication between partners. Hannah discusses the significance of responsive desire, the effects of societal pressures, and ways to reclaim pleasure in modern relationships. Finally, she advocates for setting personal boundaries while embracing intimacy and self-care.
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Hannah's Personal Libido Journey
- Hannah experienced low desire due to past abuse and using sex as a bargaining chip for validation.
- She endured cycles of desire at relationship start then loss when security was gained, causing confusion and shame.
Stress Kills Desire
- Viewing sex as a chore creates pressure and kills desire due to stress.
- Reclaim sex as pleasurable and explore what personally makes it fun to incentivize engaging in it.
Use a Sexual Menu for Desire
- Create a sexual menu with escalating intimacy levels to build desire progressively.
- Communicate openness levels to partners to initiate intimacy at comfortable stages without pressure.
