Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay What Successful Neurodiverse Couples Know and Do: Key Ingredients-Stephanie and Dan Holmes
Aug 6, 2024
Join Stephanie Holmes, a certified autism and neurodiverse marriage specialist, and her husband Dan, a certified master life coach, as they delve into the intricate dynamics of neurodiverse relationships. They discuss the vital distinction between 'wanting to' and 'wanting to want to,' highlighting the need for concrete actions to match intentions. The couple shares insights on navigating expectations for neurotypical and autistic partners, emphasizing humility, teachability, and open communication as keys to growth and healthy connections.
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Wanting To vs. Wanting To Want To
- Wanting to do something requires taking concrete actions towards that goal, not just expressing a desire.
- If there's no action, it's "wanting to want to," not truly "wanting to."
Managing Expectations in Neurodiverse Relationships
- Neurotypical partners should avoid comparing their neurodiverse relationship to neurotypical ones.
- Neurodiversity isn't a free pass, but it requires adjusting expectations and finding a realistic middle ground.
Showing vs. Telling
- Show what's important through actions, not just words.
- Put in effort, even if it's clunky at first, rather than making excuses.