#755: Hugh Jackman and Esther Perel

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Jul 17, 2024

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Esther Perel

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Hugh Jackman

Hugh Jackman, Academy Award-nominated actor known for his roles in 'X-Men' and 'Les Misérables', joins Esther Perel, a renowned psychotherapist and author, for an engaging dialogue. Jackman shares his meditation practices and the emotional energy needed for performance, reflecting on valuable life lessons from his father. Perel delves into the complexities of honesty in modern relationships, discussing polyamory and the evolving meaning of marriage today. Together, they explore the transformative power of kindness and deep connections.

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ADVICE

Gifting Books

Gift short books like Here is New York or This is Water so they don't feel burdensome.
These shorter reads are more likely to be read and appreciated by recipients.

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Meditation Practice

Practice meditation using a mantra to quiet the 'monkey mind'.
This helps achieve clarity, focus, and a sense of calm, even if you fall asleep.

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Stage Performance Energy

Find something you're passionate about that gives you natural energy.
Establish pre- and post-performance routines to maintain mental and physical well-being.

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This is water

Some Thoughts, Delivered on a Significant Occasion, about Living a Compassionate Life

David Foster Wallace

This book is a transcript of the only public speech David Foster Wallace gave on his views on life, delivered as a commencement address at Kenyon College in 2005. The speech delves into the difficulties of empathy, the unimportance of being well-adjusted, and the apparent loneliness of adult life. Wallace argues that true freedom comes from the ability to be fully conscious and sympathetic, and he emphasizes the importance of learning how to think and exercise control over one's thoughts. The speech is known for its blend of casual humor, exacting intellect, and practical philosophy, offering advice that renews readers with every reading. After his death, the speech became a treasured piece of writing, reprinted in various publications and widely discussed online[1][2][4].

Mating in Captivity

Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

Esther Perel

In this book, Esther Perel explores the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, arguing that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor can be antithetical to erotic desire. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel uses case studies and lively discussions to demonstrate how more exciting, playful, and poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining independence, mystery, and the space between self and other to sustain desire.

The Overstory

Richard Powers

The Overstory is a sweeping and impassioned work of environmental fiction that follows the lives of nine individuals whose paths are intertwined by their connections to trees. The novel is structured in four parts – 'Roots', 'Trunk', 'Crown', and 'Seeds' – mirroring the parts of a tree. It delves into themes of ecology, climate change, and the interconnectedness of trees and humans, using a blend of science, history, and magical realism. The book advocates for the protection of trees and the natural world, posing critical questions about humanity's relationship with the environment and the long-term consequences of human actions[2][4][5].

Madame Bovary

Gustave Flaubert

Published in 1857, 'Madame Bovary' is a seminal work of literary realism that tells the story of Emma Bovary, a beautiful and intelligent young woman who marries Charles Bovary, a dull and unambitious doctor. Emma's life is marked by boredom, romantic fantasies, and a series of ill-fated love affairs with men like Rodolphe and Léon. Her inability to distinguish between her romantic ideals and the harsh realities of her life leads to financial ruin, public scandal, and ultimately, her tragic demise. The novel is renowned for its masterful writing, detailed psychological insights, and its critique of bourgeois provincial life[2][3][5].

The Erotic Mind

Jack Morin

Crime and Punishment

Bibliophile Bibliophile Pro

Constance Black Garnett

FYODOR DOSTOEVSKY

Published in 1866, 'Crime and Punishment' is a psychological novel set in St. Petersburg, Russia. It revolves around Rodion Raskolnikov, an impoverished and intellectually gifted former student who formulates a theory that some individuals are morally justified in committing crimes for the greater good of society. Raskolnikov puts this theory to the test by murdering an old pawnbroker and her half-sister, leading to a profound exploration of his psychological and emotional struggles with guilt, paranoia, and the consequences of his actions. The novel delves into socio-economic disparities, moral dilemmas, and the psychology of criminals, making it a classic of Russian literature and existential thought[2][4][5].

Man's Search for Meaning

Viktor Frankl

The book is divided into two parts. The first part recounts Frankl's harrowing experiences as a prisoner in Nazi concentration camps, including Auschwitz, between 1942 and 1945. He describes the inhumane conditions and the psychological and emotional struggles of the prisoners. The second part introduces Frankl's theory of logotherapy, which posits that the primary human drive is the search for meaning, rather than pleasure. Frankl argues that meaning can be found through three main avenues: work (doing something significant), love (caring for another), and suffering (finding meaning in one's own suffering). The book emphasizes the importance of finding purpose and meaning in life, even in the most adverse conditions, as a key factor in survival and personal growth.

The Art of Loving

Erich Fromm

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If This Is a Man

Primo Levi

This book is an autobiographical account of Primo Levi's experiences as a prisoner in Auschwitz from February 1944 to January 1945. It describes the harsh conditions, the dehumanization of prisoners, and the struggle to maintain humanity in the face of extreme suffering. Levi's narrative is characterized by its calm and reflective tone, aiming to inform readers about the atrocities of the Nazi camp system and to serve as a personal act of 'interior liberation'[3][4][5].

Here is New York

E. B. White