

Don't Be Yourself: Why the Cult of Authenticity Is Killing Not Just Your Career but Your Life
Oct 6, 2025
Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, a psychologist and author, argues against the cult of authenticity in his impactful discussion. He suggests that strategic self-presentation often trumps radical honesty in achieving success. Authenticity, he claims, is a privilege for the elite and perpetuates inequality, especially regarding gender dynamics. Chamorro-Premuzic reveals how self-delusion can sometimes work as an advantage and discusses the pressures of AI on human expression. With a blend of behavioral science and cultural insights, he challenges conventional beliefs on authenticity and leadership.
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Others' Perceptions Drive Success
- Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic argues success depends on how others see you, not your private self-concept.
- He calls for strategic self-presentation where obligation to others limits the right to be yourself.
Manage Your Image Deliberately
- Learn where your right to be you ends and your obligation to others begins.
- Use strategic impression management to display social skills that others value.
Confidence Beats Brutal Honesty
- Overconfidence often wins in selection contexts even when it's unjustified.
- Radical honesty loses in interviews because confident claims beat humble admissions.