How to Not Die Alone: Overcoming Your Dating Blindspots - Logan Ury

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Dec 30, 2022

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INSIGHT

The Spark Is a Myth

The 'spark' in relationships is a myth that often misleads people.
Long-term love builds gradually through a 'slow burn' of connection and shared experiences.

ADVICE

Romanticizers Must Embrace Reality

Romanticizers should let go of unrealistic soul mate fantasies and accept that relationships require effort.
Focus on flexibility in less important traits and doubling down on values like mutual effort and growth.

INSIGHT

Adopt a Growth Mindset in Love

Growth mindset in relationships leads to greater success and resilience.
Viewing problems as joint challenges helps build stronger partnerships than expecting effortless love.

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Have you ever looked around and wondered, 'Why has everyone found love except me?' you're not the only one. Great relationships don't just appear in our lives - they're the culmination of a series of decisions, including who to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love. Drawing from years of research, behavioural scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn't lead to results. You have to actually change your behaviour. In this live interview session, Logan will show you how. Incorporating insights from behavioural science, original research, and real-life stories, you'll learn: — What's holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern) — What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn't) — ⁠How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you) — ⁠How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love) — How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews) — ⁠Why 'the spark' is a myth (but you'll find love anyway) And more… Logan’s data-driven, step-by-step approach has the potential to help you find, build and keep a relationship, in which both partners thrive. --- Logan Ury is a behavioural scientist turned dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. As the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, she leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. After studying psychology at Harvard, she ran Google’s behavioural science team—the Irrational Lab. Logan’s work has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME, The Washington Post, GQ, Glamour, Vice, on HBO, BBC, and she was a featured speaker at SXSW in 2021. You can learn more of her works at: https://www.loganury.com Links: - Get our latest psychology lectures emailed to your inbox: http://bit.ly/new-talks5 - Check out our next event: http://theweekenduniversity.com/events/ - Logan’s website: https://www.loganury.com - Logan’s book: https://www.loganury.com/book