Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 338 - The Science of Relationship Maintenance
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Sep 7, 2021 AI Snips
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Dual Purpose of Relationship Maintenance
- Relationship maintenance behaviors serve to both mitigate threats and enhance relationships simultaneously.
- These behaviors include internal thoughts and external interactive actions with a partner.
Think Positively About Your Partner
- Think good thoughts about your partner and give them the benefit of the doubt regularly.
- Avoid forcing untrue thoughts about others' attractiveness; it can backfire and harm commitment.
Balanced Idealization Aids Maintenance
- Idealizing a partner positively correlates with maintaining the relationship over time.
- Optimal idealization balances seeing partners' good qualities without ignoring red flags or relationship problems.