Tim Clare, performance poet and author, discusses success myths around anxiety, achieving goals, and the idea of the finish line. They emphasize embracing and managing anxiety, reframing wasted time in writing, and recognizing intrinsic value over achievement.
Trying to completely eliminate anxiety can make it worse, accepting it and learning to live with it can lead to a healthier relationship with anxiety.
Fixating on reaching a finish line can hinder satisfaction and motivation, finding joy in the process and appreciating small moments of progress leads to a more sustainable sense of fulfillment.
Deep dives
Myth: You can cure your anxiety
Anxiety sufferers often hope to find a cure for their anxiety, thinking that if they follow the right steps or treatments, they can eliminate their fears and worries. However, this myth overlooks the fact that trying to completely stamp out anxiety can actually make it worse. Anxiety sensitivity, or the intolerance to the physical symptoms and thoughts associated with anxiety, is a significant risk factor for disordered anxiety. Instead of seeking a cure, accepting anxiety as a natural response and learning to live with it can lead to a healthier and more manageable relationship with anxiety.
Myth: There is a finish line
The belief that achieving a specific goal or completing a project will provide a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment is a common myth. However, as a writer, Tim Clare explains that there is no end point to success. Even when completing a book or reaching a milestone, there's always another project or goal that awaits. Rather than fixating on reaching a finish line, finding joy in the process, enjoying the act of writing, and appreciating the small moments of progress can lead to a more sustainable sense of satisfaction and motivation.
Myth: Achievement equals value
Society often perpetuates the belief that people's value and worth are determined by their achievements or success in certain areas of life. Writer Tim Clare challenges this myth, emphasizing that inherent value as a person is not tied to external accomplishments. Relying on achievements to validate one's worth can lead to a constant pursuit of approval and validation from others. True value lies in recognizing and embracing one's inherent worth, regardless of achievements or external recognition.
Welcome back to The Success Myth Diaries. Today's guest is Tim Clare, performance poet, author of two fantasy novels and nonfiction books including WE CAN'T ALL BE ASTRONAUTS, which won Best Biography/Memoir at the East Anglian Book Awards. His latest book COWARD a brilliant book about why we get anxious and what we can do about it (one of my favourite books on anxiety). His podcast Death Of 1000 Cuts, a podcast for readers, writers, and anyone who fancies being a little bit happier while they do those things. In this episode we discuss his three success myths around anxiety, achievement and the myth of the finish line. Hope you enjoy.
Buy your copy of COWARD here: https://uk.bookshop.org/a/153/9781838853136
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Books mentioned on Ctrl Alt Delete podcast: https://uk.bookshop.org/lists/books-mentioned-on-ctrl-alt-delete-podcast