Swinger University™ - A Sexy and Educational Swinging Lifestyle Show You're Asking The WRONG Question About Sex Frequency (Here's What Actually Matters)
Oct 16, 2025
Discover why society's magic number for sex frequency is a myth. The hosts explore the importance of quality over quantity in relationships and how modern distractions affect intimacy. Learn about responsive versus spontaneous desire, the surprising role of household chores in sexual satisfaction, and how building 'sexual currency' can enhance connection. They also discuss the misalignment in sexual preferences and the need for open communication. Get ready to rethink intimacy and prioritize connection over counting sessions!
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Frequency Is Not The Point
- There is no universal 'right' sex frequency and comparing to a magic number hurts intimacy.
- Quality of sex predicts satisfaction more than how often it happens.
Life Noise Kills Desire
- Modern life, stress, and constant distraction drain mental space and reduce sexual desire.
- Low mental capacity and high cortisol make responsive arousal far less likely.
Responsive Desire Beats Waiting
- Desire comes in two types: spontaneous and responsive, and responsive desire often builds after engagement.
- Waiting to 'feel like it' ignores responsive desire and sets couples up for failure.
