You're Asking The WRONG Question About Sex Frequency (Here's What Actually Matters)
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Penetrative Sex Is Not Women's Preferred Activity
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How often are you really supposed to be having sex? Spoiler alert: You've been asking the wrong question.
Society pushes a "magic number" for sexual frequency that's causing more harm than good. The truth? There is no normal. We're diving deep into why the three-times-a-week standard is BS, how desire actually works in long-term relationships, and the one thing that matters more than counting sessions—quality and connection.
Ed and Phoebe challenge everything you thought you knew about sex in relationships, from the myth of spontaneous desire to why 80% of women can't orgasm the way we've been told they should. Drawing on research from Dr. Karen Gurney's "Mind the Gap" and insights from the swinging lifestyle, we reveal practical strategies to build sexual currency without adding pressure, understand responsive desire, and create the conditions where passion can thrive.
What You'll Learn:
- Why comparing your sex life to society's "normal" is killing your intimacy
- The two types of desire and why waiting to "feel like it" sets you up for failure
- How to build sexual currency through non-sexual intimacy (yes, doing dishes counts!)
- Why penetrative sex is women's least preferred sexual activity—and what that means for satisfaction
- The surprising connection between household chores and sexual satisfaction
- How the swinging lifestyle opened up game-changing conversations about sex
- Why humans aren't biologically wired for monogamy (and what that means for your relationship)
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Opening: The Question Everyone's Thinking
- 01:02 - The Frequency Myth: Society's Broken Benchmark
- 05:40 - Why We're Having Less Sex: Modern Intimacy Killers
- 11:20 - How Desire Really Works: Spontaneous vs. Responsive
- 16:30 - Arousal Non-Concordance: When Mind and Body Don't Match
- 22:10 - Building Sexual Currency: Practical Strategies That Work
- 28:00 - What Actually Matters: Quality, Communication & Flexibility
- 40:30 - The Gender Script Problem: Why PIV Isn't the Answer
- 46:00 - What Actually Helps: From Chores to Mindfulness
- 52:00 - The Big Picture: Rethinking Monogamy and Moving Forward
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