Three Powerful Questions That Transform Difficult Conversations | Jefferson Fisher EP 908
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Mar 3, 2025
Explore three transformative questions that can change the dynamics of difficult conversations. Learn how to acknowledge others' feelings with a disarming phrase, create space for deeper dialogue, and let concern bridge gaps. Discover the impact of authentic listening on relationships, and understand the importance of recognizing your own triggers to communicate confidently. The discussion reveals how mastering these tools can turn conflicts into opportunities for growth and connection.
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Validate Feelings
When someone is overreactive, ask "Sounds like you have a reason for saying that."
This acknowledges their perspective without judgment and encourages them to share their feelings.
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Encourage Deeper Explanation
Use "Tell me more" to encourage further explanation and create space for understanding.
This helps others fully express themselves before receiving new information.
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Show Empathy and Concern
Ask "Are you okay?" with genuine concern.
This can defuse tension and foster connection by showing empathy.
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Communication expert Jefferson Fisher shares the three most powerful questions to ask when someone is overreactive or overwhelmed. The first is Chris Voss's disarming phrase "Sounds like you have a reason for saying that," which acknowledges the person's perspective without judgment. The second is the seemingly simple yet profound invitation to "Tell me more," which Fisher explains creates space for people to fully express themselves before they can receive new information. The third question—"Are you okay?"—asked with genuine concern, can instantly defuse tension and create connection.
Lewis and Jefferson explore how mastering these communication tools, particularly "tell me more," can transform relationships by fostering deeper understanding during conflicts. They discuss the common mistake of lacking assertiveness in difficult conversations, with Jefferson emphasizing the importance of understanding your own triggers while communicating with confidence. Lewis candidly admits his past struggles with having challenging conversations, often choosing to keep peace rather than express his true feelings. Their conversation reveals how authentic listening without trying to fix problems creates powerful bonds that strengthen relationships over time.