You want a SECURE relationship with your child?

Oct 15, 2024

Eli Harwood, a licensed therapist and expert in relational trauma, shares insights from over 17 years in the field. He discusses the powerful impact of attachment theory on parenting, emphasizing how early experiences shape adult relationships. Eli reveals different attachment styles and their manifestation in parenting. The conversation dives into emotional regulation, the importance of conflict resolution, and practical strategies for fostering secure attachments. Eli also highlights parental insecurities and encourages authentic connection with children.

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Intro

00:00 • 2min

Understanding Attachment: The Journey from Trauma to Secure Relationships

01:39 • 4min

Exploring Attachment Theory and Its Impact on Parenting

06:00 • 5min

Understanding Attachment Styles in Parenting

11:11 • 6min

Understanding Attachment Dynamics in Parenting

17:00 • 4min

The Balance of Consistency in Parenting

20:35 • 12min

Navigating Parental Insecurities and Child Connection

32:06 • 5min

Nurturing Emotional Security

36:43 • 6min

Embracing the Challenges of Parenthood

42:37 • 3min

In this conversation, Nina and Eli delve into the intricacies of attachment theory and its profound influence on parenting. Eli shares her personal journey with attachment styles, the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships, and the importance of fostering secure attachments with children. They discuss the various attachment styles, how they manifest in parenting, and the significance of conflict resolution and repair in maintaining healthy relationships with children. In this conversation, Nina and Eli explore the complexities of parenting, focusing on the emotional challenges parents face and the importance of secure attachment. They discuss the balance between acknowledging one's own insecurities while striving to provide a nurturing environment for children. Eli emphasizes the significance of making repairs in relationships, the pitfalls of over-apologizing, and the misconceptions surrounding boundaries and connection. He outlines four essential practices for parents to foster secure attachments with their children, highlighting the need for emotional regulation and self-awareness in parenting.

00:00: Understanding Attachment Theory

07:09: The Impact of Attachment on Parenting

13:57: Exploring Attachment Styles

20:08: Navigating Conflict and Repair in Parenting

25:38: Navigating Parenting Insecurities

27:24: The Burden of Repair in Parenting

29:07: Over-Apologizing: A Common Parental Pitfall

32:40: Misconceptions About Boundaries and Connection

35:36: Four Essential Parenting Practices

42:33: Finding Balance in Parenting

Meet Eli

Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist, author, and educator who has more than 17 years of

experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure attachment

relationships with their children and partners. Eli has three children, one husband, two cats, and

an extraordinary number of plants.

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