This episode is about when we just can’t seem to get back to feeling ourselves. Today’s caller, Monica, has been injured by trauma over the last several years. She feels stuck and can’t seem to recharge. She asks for guidance on how to get over it and on with it.
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When we are not feeling like ourselves. It can be frightening. We need to remind ourselves that even though we don't feel like ourselves at the moment, we know who we are. When we have been through a lot of trauma, just because it’s over doesn’t mean it’s over.
Time does not heal all wounds when it comes to trauma. Our nervous system gets unregulated. We get depleted. Our brain gets all scrambled. We get put into survival mode, and it is hard to connect to creativity, to other people, and sometimes to spirituality. When we are completely depleted and in survival mode, there are things that happen in our brains that make it impossible to do it. But, at the same time, we have conditioning that tells us we should be able to get over things.
But, whether it is trauma or transition, there is an in-between state when we want to get back to how we used to be but oftentimes there is a newer version of ourselves post-trauma, post-transition, that we don’t know yet. That is a beautiful new version of ourselves. We need to give ourselves the grace, compassion, passion, support, and time to get there.
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
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Have you had a rough couple of years and even though the storms are over you still feel that you can’t get over it?
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Are you in a place in life where you’re not really depressed but you’re just not yourself?
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Have you been through a lot of trauma, or difficult times and you can’t seem to shake it? Have you ever considered that you may have PTSD?
Monica's Question:
Monica has had a difficult few years. She feels she has nothing left to give and wants to get over it and on with it.
Monica’s Key Insights and Ahas:
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Several people in her life took their own lives.
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She was in a motorcycle accident.
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She owns her own business.
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She goes from crisis mode to crisis mode.
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She has been in survival mode for a long time.
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She judges herself for not being able to move on.
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She may have PTSD.
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She self-isolates at times and needs to recharge.
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She doesn’t understand why she feels the way she does.
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She feels stuck.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
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Realize there is nothing wrong with her.
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Look for a trauma-trained practitioner that can help with nervous system trauma, such as EMDR.
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Do things that nourish her, like a massage, and replenish herself.
Takeaways:
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