I Could Never... Why We Didn’t Pull The Plug
May 1, 2025
Deepa Paul, a queer femme author from Amsterdam, shares her candid experiences with non-monogamy and infidelity in open marriages. She discusses overcoming cultural shame and the journey of rebuilding trust after betrayal. The conversation takes a humorous turn as Deepa recounts a chaotic dating mishap that landed her in the emergency room. Through personal stories, she emphasizes the importance of communication and adaptability in relationships, while also touching on the profound support found during her breast cancer diagnosis.
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Secret Affair Causes Turning Point
- Deepa had a secret affair after her initial attempt to open her marriage was rejected.
- The affair was exposed by accident, forcing a crucial decision about their relationship's future.
Blueprint for Rebuilding Trust
- Rebuild trust by creating a personalized blueprint of what makes your partner feel safe.
- Forgive yourself for breaking trust as guilt hampers healthy relationship rebuilding.
First Butt Plug ER Visit
- Deepa's first experience with a butt plug ended in an ER visit on a first date.
- Despite the mishap, the relationship continued with safer play the next time.
