Modern Wisdom #535 - James Smith - How Do You Develop Real Confidence?
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Oct 6, 2022 
James Smith, an author and online trainer focused on personal development, dives into the nature of confidence and its connection to competence. He discusses the idea of faking confidence, the anxiety-confidence relationship, and whether women are inherently more confident than men. The conversation also tackles how to deal with failures, the importance of embracing discomfort for growth, and the significance of competence in building genuine confidence. Along the way, James champions the value of vulnerability and mentorship in personal development.
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Confidence and Inaction
- Low confidence can be a guise for inaction, preventing us from closing open loops in our lives.
- These unresolved loops, like wondering "what if," lead to mental drain and anxiety.
Closing Loops
- Embrace small actions to close loops and build confidence.
- Asking for a discount or a number isn't about the outcome, but overcoming the fear of action.
Unintentional Rejection Therapy
- James Smith's early jobs in sales exposed him to constant rejection.
- This unintentional "rejection therapy" desensitized him to failure and built resilience.
